Even When the Kettle’s Bare

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Some paths are quieter than others—but walking them together makes all the difference. Today reminded me of the quiet weight that comes with being the one others turn to. I spoke with both of my daughters—separately, at different points in the day. One needed advice, the kind only a mother can give when life feels uncertain. The other’s voice held something heavier, and when I asked, she let it spill: relationship strain, financial stress, the kind of ache that’s hard to name out loud. I listened. I offered what I could—words, perspective, a little steadiness. And later, I followed up. Not because I had to, but because I know how it feels to be left holding something alone. They each thanked me. They each made a move forward. And I felt that familiar flicker of peace—the kind that comes from knowing you were able to help. But beneath that peace, there’s a quieter ache. The kind that surfaces when you’re still navigating your own storm, and yet you find yourself pouring from a cup that’...
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Debunking GenXers Parenting Style

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The *helicopter parent* myth—let’s debunk this one *right now.* Gen X parents aren’t hovering over their kids, micromanaging their every move, or clutching participation trophies like their lives depend on it. Nope. What they *are* doing is making sure their kids always know they’re loved, supported, and capable of handling life.

Where Did the Helicopter Stereotype Come From?
Gen X was raised in the era of latchkey kids, where independence wasn’t optional—it was *expected.* Many grew up figuring things out solo, waiting for parents to get home from work, and knowing “emotional support” was basically *learning to deal*. So naturally, when Gen X became parents, they pivoted. They didn’t want their kids to feel *alone* in the world the way they often did. But this wasn’t **hovering**—this was making sure their kids felt seen.

What Gen X Parents Are Actually Doing
*Teaching resilience, not dependence. **They’re raising kids who know how to navigate the world but never *wonder* if they’re loved.
*Being present without suffocating. **They’ll give advice, *maybe* bail you out once, but they’re not clearing every obstacle in your path.
*Creating a safe space without bubble-wrapping. **You can vent, you can fail, you can figure life out—but accountability still exists.
*Encouraging independence with a side of support. **A Gen X parent will *absolutely* let their kid struggle through a tough moment, but they’ll also be the first to remind them, *“You’ve got this.”*

Truth Bomb:
Gen X parents aren’t helicoptering. They’re simply making sure their kids know something they *didn’t always hear themselves*: *you are deeply loved, no matter what.* And honestly? That’s *great* parenting.

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